Dating Therapy in NYC

High-achieving, and still stuck in dating

If your life is full—work, responsibility, commuting, caregiving—dating can start to feel like a second job you don’t have time for. You may want partnership, but find yourself exhausted, avoidant, overly analytical, or discouraged by the whole process.

We work with high-functioning adults looking for a dating therapist to help them understand what keeps happening—especially when the same pattern repeats—and build a clearer, steadier way forward.

Patterns we work with in dating therapy

Getting caught in the same dynamic (pursuing/withdrawing, hot/cold, situationships)
Overthinking, second-guessing, or “auditing” every interaction
Dating anxiety, rejection sensitivity, or difficulty being vulnerable
Choosing unavailable partners or losing interest when someone is available
Avoiding dating altogether (burnout, dread, “I can’t do this again”)
Mismatched timelines around commitment, children, or marriage
Feeling stuck between independence and wanting partnership

How dating therapy helps

Dating can activate old relational patterns fast—especially when the stakes feel high. In therapy, we help you understand what keeps repeating, why it has such a grip, and how to respond differently in real time. The goal isn’t to “perform better” at dating; it’s to date with more clarity, steadiness, and self-respect.

Stop repeating the same dynamic

If you keep ending up in the same loop—hot/cold, “almost” relationships, pursuing/withdrawing—we slow it down and map the pattern. Once you can recognize it early, you can interrupt it without needing a blow-up to force change.

Boundaries that don’t kill the vibe

We work on pacing, communication, and decision-making so you’re not negotiating against yourself. You can stay open without overgiving—and walk away without spiraling into self-doubt.

When the stakes feel real

If you want commitment, marriage, or children, dating can start to feel urgent—and the urgency can distort your judgment. Therapy gives you a place to think clearly about timelines, grief, fear, and hope so you can make choices from values, not panic.

Dating therapy FAQ

Is dating therapy different from general therapy?

It’s still real therapy—just focused on the patterns that show up most in dating and early relationships. We look at what gets activated, what you repeat, and how you protect yourself (sometimes in ways that backfire).

Do you help with dating apps and messaging?

Yes—but not as “rules.” We can talk through how you present yourself, what you’re drawn to, what you avoid, and how to communicate in a way that’s clear and boundaried.

What if I’m not dating right now?

That’s common. Some people come in because they’re burned out, discouraged, or taking a break. We can work on the pattern even when you’re not actively dating, so re-entry feels less overwhelming and more intentional.

How long does it take to see change?

Some people feel relief quickly once they can name the pattern and stop blaming themselves. Lasting change is more gradual—because we’re shifting how you relate, not just what you do.

“The Keely Group helped me feel more comfortable with dating, understand my attachment style, and move through my current relationship more intentionally.”

— Shared with permission from anonymous client feedback