How to Find an Online Therapist in NYC


Looking for an online therapist in NYC?

You’re a New Yorker, through and through. Life is busy, fast-paced, and stimulating although sometimes overbearing. You thrive in the frenetic energy of the city and don’t realize just how steeped in this culture you are until you leave the New York metropolitan area for a few days and notice that the rest of the world seems to move a whole lot slower than you do. This life can require a lot from you and it can feel nearly impossible to add anything else to your plate, such as how to find a good therapist in NYC to work through those feelings of anxiety or depression that you’ve been meaning to talk with someone about. If you're a busy person from NYC, here’s a guide for those of you considering virtual therapy or online therapy:

1.     Review all of the internet content you can find regarding the therapist(s) you are considering.

Does their profile on Psychology Today resonate with you? What about their website copy? Do they have Google reviews (mind you, most ethical therapists discourage their clients from posting reviews – positive or negative – because of issues of confidentiality, but sometimes you can get a sense for someone based on the professional community that refers clients to them)? This isn’t foolproof science, but it can be a good starting point to help generate a list of a few therapists whose online presence feels like it could be a good fit for you.

2.     Schedule a video consultation with a few different candidates.

Most therapists offer a free initial consultation to help you get a sense for what it would be like to work with them, to learn more about whether you are an appropriate candidate for online therapy, and to discuss logistics like scheduling. Sometimes this consultation can feel awkward, especially if you aren’t used to videoconferencing with someone, so try not to take this as the definitive “yes” or “no” for a particular therapist or even for online therapy overall. Instead, just try to get a feel for whether the therapist you are consulting seems engaged, interested in knowing more about you, and seems like someone you could imagine getting to know a little bit better. The therapeutic relationship will develop over time so this consult can be used just to provide a preliminary sense of fit.

3.     Make a commitment.

Once you’ve decided on a therapist you think you want to work with, make a commitment to yourself and to the treatment to attend sessions for a set period of time (maybe 3 months? 6 months?) before making any further decisions about whether this is the right therapist for you. Therapy can bring up a lot of difficult feelings, and the therapeutic relationship is often unlike any other you’ve ever experienced, so it is not unusual to have some reservations in the early stages. Instead of heading for the proverbial hills, or quickly moving on to a different therapist hoping for a different experience, try letting the therapist you are working with know that you have some concerns and see whether you can utilize the therapeutic relationship to get your needs met. This can be a crucial phase in the treatment so don’t sell yourself, or your therapist, short by ending it prematurely. That said, if it is just absolutely clear that it isn’t going to work, try asking the current therapist for referrals. A good therapist should want to help you connect with the right therapist for you, not just convince you to stay with them!

I hope this helps frame your search for an online therapist in NYC. Please click here to read more about working with me. If that resonates with you or you’d like more guidance in your search for virtual counseling in the New York City area, schedule a free initial consultation with me here and let’s talk about how online counseling might help you live the life you long for in NYC.